the shock of what happened in my neighborhood the other day still hasn’t worn off. i still don’t know all the details, but i know enough to know that i need to start scraping my money together to move. first, i have new neighbors.. she doesn’t do shit with her kids and i could tell that before they were here a week. let me say that i cannot stand parents who can’t/won’t do anything with their kids. it makes it harder for those of us who are trying to raise their kids right. so anyway, from what i gathered from sheena my new next door neighbor’s son and one of my other neighbor’s sons had 2 girls in that other neighbor’s apartment. the 2 girls are sisters of my new neighbor’s son.. let that sink it a minute.. idk how they got caught or who caught them (the kids were in the house unsupervised, of course), but eventually the police were called. like i said, i don’t know many details beyond what i have typed. one or both boys may end up as sex offenders. both boys are under the age of 13. and why was that mom not home with her kids instead of joyriding with teenagers? she was too busy chasing dick to be concerned about what was going on with her kids. #FACT
this shit scares me because there is way too much of this going on where i live. its like i live in this bubble where i am doing right by my kids while everyone around us is letting their families fall into the abyss. ny cannot play with most of these girls around here because… fuck it. i don’t trust my baby at everybody’s home. most of these chicks knowingly allow sex offenders and shit into their homes. i can’t say it enough but please believe i will kill over my kids. hell, even some of the females i’m the tightest with slack (heavily) on their parenting duties. i stay at home more than usual because the more shit i see the more i want to stay home. their attitudes on parenting… i mean, they are my girls but i guess we’re on different levels now.
the thing is money though. what good is moving from this hood to another hood were the “views” on parenthood, accountability, and just being a decent human being will probably be the same? i try my best to show my kids there is more to this world than the bs we live in. i sign them up for shit just so they won’t have to spend the majority of their time at home not doing shit. boredom is a dangerous thing and i speak on that from experience. tj told me one time, “y’all live in the hood but you don’t have hood kids.” that was like the greatest compliment on my parenting that i have heard. yes i am hard on my kids. hell yea i am, but i do give them a soft place to land as well. the world is a cold hard place, especially for people of color. if i don’t make sure they have their heads on straight then they will end up in these streets. and i will die before i let that happen. real talk. if my kids are failing in school, then i failed as a mom. that’s really the way i see shit. if i don’t hold them accountable for the little bs they do now, they will run around thinking that is the way the world works later. i will have failed. if i am steadily buying them shit and their grades aren’t up to par or they don’t do their housework, they will end up with the belief that something for nothing is the norm. i will have failed. if i don’t teach my son and daughter the value of their minds and bodies and they end up with a team of kids and just as many babymamas/babydaddies, then i will have failed my kids. to me, that is the way parenting is supposed to work, nobody is responsible for my kids but me and if they don’t have any home training, then guess whose fault that is? if you don’t want more for your kids than the life that you have, then you are a shitty parent in my opinion. i am never in life saying that i am a perfect parent. no where near close to being one. but, i do want more for my kids. i don’t want them to live the life i’m living now. it is a sad fact that where we live my kids, especially ny, get accused of “acting white” because of how they talk or their good grades. i think that is one of the dumbest phrases black people use toward one another. like getting A’s or speaking correctly is something our race can’t do. my son is in honor’s math for the 2nd year in a row; my daughter has been one of the highest-level readers at her school since 2nd grade. that is nothing to be ashamed of and i let them know it.
i’m at the point where i’m tempted to say my kids can’t hang with certain kids with single mothers, because the kids that do most of the shit i speak on come from single mother homes. so what the fuck are they teaching their kids?!? but.. i’m a single mom so i cannot define a whole group in a single stroke. i get that. but dammit, the evidence is mounting..